Salam....
When Afeef was little, he was often so enthusiastic to help me with house chorus, like sweeping the floor, cooking, cleaning the toilet, washing the dishes, preparing his own milk, etc etc and I remember all these distinctly....
But problem was, I had never really let him, because instead of actually helping me, he often ended up leaving a huge mess for me to clean up :D
So, I chosed to just do everything myself because I didn't want the mess...
What a huge mistake!!
When I met my mom last time, mom reminded me again about this. Mom said,
"Don't do EVERYTHING for the kids.."
"Let them do things themselves!"
Oh so true....
There's always something I get every time I meet mom... and thank God I still have a mom who'd constantly reminded me of the right thing to do..
So, my new mission now, to make sure the kids are able to do many things themselves...
Have you ever heard of a saying that goes like this~~
~~It is not what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings~~~~
How come I've never realized this before???
I keep doing things for them from A-Z when they are actually capable of doing things themselves, like clean the room, make the bed, wash the dishes, etc etc...
But..... it's never too late!
So, by far, they started washing dishes themselves... I never had to remind them about this again (",)
Fatini always enjoys this task, errrrrr... actually she enjoys all house chorus hehehe...
They helped me in the kitchen, cooking, baking, usually I don't have to ask for help when it comes to baking and cooking, memang berebut nak tolong hehe..
Then ada la kejadian yang tak diingini, berebut itu, berebut ini, tepung tumpah, macam2 lagi... mama sabar je.. huhu..
Sometimes, I even wished that nobody noticed that I was baking haha!
Because Fatini and Aleena are sooooo into baking, so Afeef had to give in most of the time letting them do the jobs (",)
mmmmmmmmm..... (",)
Pancake, everyone's favorite!
Some tips: To have a fluffy pancake, use Self Raising Flour.
Eh tertukar topik hehehe..
Today, little Aleena helped me with 'ikan bilis'....
I didn't ask for her help, she offered to help (",)
If I were still the same old me, I wouldn't have let her you know.. I would tell her to go play her toys!
But with this new mission and motivation, I felt so happy to let her help me with the 'ikan bilis' even though I was a lil bit worried about her mischiefs hehe...
So I let her.....
Though, after a few minutes......
mmmmmmmmm.......
It's ok lah hehehe... if we wait for everything to be perfect, by then, they won't be so excited to help with house chorus anymore...
They are just kids after all, kids are creative.....
You'll see their creativity in everything they do... so, don't scold them, just let their creativity grows... encourage them whenever necessary (",)
Yesterday, while I was in the bathroom, they cleaned the whole house without being told to do so...
Wow, I was impressed!
Errrrr.....
Rupa2 nya letak semua dalam kemah ni hehehe...
Patutlah pantas haha!
But, it's ok, those effort that matters to me, I still hugged and praised them for what they did hehe..
And, so far they made their bed themselves every morning without fail..
So happy to see this (",)
They remind each other, there was one morning I heard them waking up, they ususally chit chat a little before they got out of the room, and then I heard Fatini said,
"Afeef, kemas katil dulu..." hehehe..
True, kids are special in their own way....
So, to all mommies out there, especially housewives, your children tend to depend so much on you, because you are with them at home 24 7, and you tend to do everything for them too, thinking that you should because that's your job... but actually, it's not....
It's your job to teach them to be able to do everything themselves, to educate them, talk to them, tell them stories, remind them of the right things to do in life, correct them when they're wrong, listen to them when they have something to tell, (even if they talk about Power Rangers ke, Powerpuff girls ke, Luigi's Mansion ke hehe), care for them, love them, hug and kiss them everyday... when they start hiding things from you, that's when you have to bring yourself closer to them...
And you know what, it's quite fun talking to your kids, listen to their stories bout kindergarten, bout school, bout their favorite stories, while folding the clothes, while drinking together.. (",)
It's a moment we should cherish as a mom...
Don't miss every moment of it (",)
Most importantly, praise them, hug and kiss them for everything good they'd done, that way they feel appreciated and they will want to do more (",)
Lastly....
Yesterday, when I fetched Fatini from Kindergarten, she'd excitedly showed me the card she'd made for me (",)
She drew me (see this pic above) in red clothes, I was touched for she's aware of my favorite color...(",)
And later she apologized because she didn't know how to draw me in hijab hehehe...
And she asked,
"Berdosa ke gambar mama tak pakai tudung?"
hehehe... so innocent....
This kind of card perhaps means nothing much to us, but it means a lot to them..
Well.....
Every single thing means a lot to them...
Sometimes we were so uncertain about what the kids want, what they need, how they want to be loved?
We were once a kid too.... what did we want?
Till later, Salam...
(",)
